H: When you really know he's the right person.

Throughout my life, I've heard stories of how people knew that their mate was "the one", and I'm certainly no exception. I figured it out when Josh held my hair back unprompted for me to wash my face when I couldn't find a hair tie. Of course, it wasn't just this act, but it's what it symbolized; that this person was MY person. That we would do something to and for each other that no one else would, and we'd do it unprompted.
Okay. That's all well and good, but that's talking about the mushy stuff. The candles and red wine while soaking in a bubble bath filled with romance. What about the boring mundane of the everyday? The bills to pay? Decisions to make? The darker times? Most marriages that are going to fail do so within the first two years and even the most loving couples argue on occasion.
I realized this yesterday and I've been thinking it over ever since: whenever Josh and I have a fight, I'm MORE certain that he's the right person for me, not less.
Here's why: we fight fair. No name calling, no shouting, no bringing up old events, no accusatory statements (which actually isn't on our radar since we get things settled). Even when we're angry, upset, frustrated, etc. we make a point to communicate well. And we trust each other enough to talk about what we're going through in our own heads and know that the other person won't make fun of or judge the other for it. Even though we're fighting, we're on the same side. We're always a team.
I'm happy to say that this gets results. When we fight, we work together to solve the problem. Admittedly, a lot of the credit (I'd say about 55-60%) goes to Josh since I'm a stubborn creature and he's more willing to be the first person to say "I see your side of it" and from there I agree and we work out the solution. I'm learning from him though and working on it. And luckily I can laugh at myself enough to say "can't, too stubborn!" or, my personal favorite, "...I'd like it just fine."
I'm learning that fighting with Josh is one of the best parts of our relationship specifically because it makes us both better people and our relationship stronger. I don't like it when we're angry, but I do like that both of us acknowledge that the thing we're fighting about is usually a symptom of something else that's bothering us, and we feel free to address it.
Proof that, once again, he is the most incredible man alive.