Wednesday, September 30, 2009

H: My first "BINGO!" moment

This just happened, and I wanted to pass it along. Awwwwwwwwwwww man, really excited.

Okay, okayokayokay.

*deep breath*

I was trolling Weddingbee.com as per usual, when I came across an entry on the boards. For those of you unfamiliar with Weddingbee (and if you're planning on getting married I suggest you become familiar ASAP), it's an online community of those preparing to get married or are newly married. It's a great place to alleviate confusion, share excitement without being annoying, and offer or gather support for life's little (or not so little) challenges. It's free to join and they don't send you anything annoying. Members can go onto the boards and post questions, ideas, rants, etc.
Well, 3 days ago, someone started a thread called "white bouquets". The bride in question was planning on having a white bouquet and needed inspiration ideas. Other bees swarmed to her aid, and while scrolling down, I came across this beauty:

Gorgeous, huh?
This was my first "Aha!" moment since my engagement ring.
Oh. Maybe I should post something about my engagement ring. ... Later.
But I wanted to share this excitement immediately. I may change my mind as other factors are introduced to my planning, such as when I find my wedding dress - which, as my friend Tracy D who is also planning her wedding pointed out the other day (Hi, Tracy D!) is a huge factor. Aside from choosing the groom, it is perhaps the biggest factor.
But this bouquet will be The Bouquet that all other bouquets are judged against, held up to to see how -and if - they compare.
*Squeal!*

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

DIY: DJ

Because our venue is fairly small and we're only inviting about 110 folks, and because of the added expense we've opted not to go with a DJ, but rather to use a laptop and iTunes.
*gasp!*
Don't worry, we're not crazy.
...
At least, not so crazy that we don't know what we're doing. From all the research that I've done on the subject, I've determined that it's possible as long as there are a few factors put into play:

- Plan, plan, and plan some more.
Make sure that if you do separate playlists (ceremony, dinner, dancing) that they are long enough to cover the activity involved. When in doubt, overestimate.
- Have a set (and small) number of people designated to touch the computer. There is to be no "meh, I'm Joe Schmoe and I don't like this song so I'm going to skip ahead!".
We'll be launching a website soon, and when we do we'll have a page where people can request their favorite songs to be played with only one guideline: if it will offend Grandma, we're not going to play it.
- Have a back-up. In our case, an iPod and iPod player. Given the small space, we'll be able to make it happen.

One of the reasons for having a DJ that we're still working on is that the DJ often acts as the Master of Ceremonies. There are really only about a half dozen announcements that need to be made; introduction of the couple, that everyone can eat, that we're cutting the cake, the first dance, the father/daughter dance, the tossing of the bouquet and garter, and that everyone needs to get their groove on.

We don't want this duty to be so prohibitive that whomever is doing it can't enjoy the party, so perhaps this is grounds for splitting it between two people. Though of course, whenever that happens, there is the risk for communication breakdown. But that's what lists are for!
We'll see. It'll all make sense as we move forward in the planning process.

Monday, September 28, 2009

The Venue and....etc.

H:
Okay, so our venue. For all those in favor of a wedding that is as stress free as possible, say "aye"
* raises hand* "AYE!"
Okay, motion carries.

To set our motion in motion, Josh and I will be enlisting the help (read: services) of the good people at Monte Verde Inn. They don't know this yet since we haven't officially reserved the date/put down a deposit, but we'll be doing that soon.
Their website can be found at www.monteverdeinn.net (and for the record, their grounds actually DO look like that. Amazing!)
The only thing that I'm nervous about is what the venue will look like in November, but we'll be taking care of that with a second visit to the venue when we go to put down our deposit.

Monte Verde Inn is an all inclusive space, meaning that they provide the food, centerpieces, venue, etc. at one flat per person rate. All we have to worry about is the photographer, the bridal flowers, and a videographer (if we want one. Which we do. It'll probably be another DIY project). There are two packages to choose from: the Cinderella, and the Princess Bride package. The Princess Bride package is a little less "us" (foie gras, etc.), so we're going with the former.
The Cinderella package includes two entrees (including prime rib and stuffed chicken breast), three sides (including "portabella mushroom risotto...") , three appetizers, fresh bread, salad, and the CAKE.
Yes. The cake is included in the flat, per person cost, which in our case is $80 for anyone over the age of 10.

I've been scouring several websites such as yelp.com, weddingbee.com, and weddingwire.com to see if I can find any dirt on them, anything that would make me not want to go with them. Thus far, nada.

The only qualm I have is how they treated Dondi, Josh's service dog. We thought we'd forgotten her cape (we hadn't, it had fallen beside a seat in the car), and while otherwise accomodating, the proprietess wasn't going to let her in. I could totally see her point of view, but it didn't sit right with me when she demanded to see identification that this was a service dog, which we don't have and were never given. She finally let Dondi in when to the front rooms only when I showed her a picture of Dondi in her cape. We went about the tour of the other rooms while Mom stayed with her, and came to find out later that Dondi doesn't actually need identification, which is why we were never given any.
According to the ADA, even if a dog isn't marked the person and their animal can't be excluded from places that a patron is normally allowed to go (so the owner's claim that it was a health code violation is more or less dumb unless they allow patrons to roam freely about the kitchens). There are certain restrictions to this. If, for example, Dondi posed a threat to public safety or if she was disturbing the primary functions of the business - which of course she was not - then she could have been excluded.

This was a few months ago, but it still bothers me. This woman claimed to know the law regarding service animals, and since we'd only had Dondi for a few months I didn't know enough about it at the time to know that actually, she only knew the bits and pieces. I don't fault her. I don't know for sure, but I doubt business owners are given a handbook, and service animals aren't given identification across the board.

On one hand, Dondi is - without question - a dog. She has fur, she goes woof, she eats dog food. On the other hand, she's a valuable member of our team. She's not a pet!
I can see both sides.
Maybe I'd feel less deeply about this if it didn't happen more often than it should. Josh was actually asked to leave a store once because they didn't want to risk dog hair on the clothes, and this is when Dondi was fully marked.
Compounding it is that apparently a person can buy service vests off various websites, such as eBay. By the way, if you're thinking of doing that, please, please, PLEASE don't.

Okay, other than that, Monte Verde Inn yay!!!

Saturday, September 26, 2009

A blog in which I have things to report...


H:
I was informed today that the blog has a fan in my dear friend and adopted sister (and Maid of Honor!), Miss Tracy. Hello my dove. Welcome! Today's blog is dedicated to you and your fabulousness.

I finished my inspiration board today, and I have to say I'm quite pleased with it. I'll take a picture to post as soon as I figure out exactly how to do that. Currently, it involves both Ubuntu and Windows.
Aside from that, there is a picture of a dress that I really like from designer Claire Pettibone that is just about perfect. The picture that I have is not one with a haggard and depressed looking model,
(like so:)



but rather in the picture I have, the young woman wearing this dress is rosy, delicate, with kind eyes. The picture - cut out of theknot.com, is fueling my inspiration. Sigh.

Moving on...

We've decided to change our wedding date from April 30, 2011 to November 20th, 2010. Not too long, just six months. But it occurred to us that we're perfectly happy to move the event up six months. It's the off season so we're more likely to get better deals, #1. And #2, how many weddings have you gone to in November? Yeah. Me neither. So how cool will this be?

The other night, we sat down and figured out how this whole wedding budget thing is going to work out. It's really, really interesting. Here's what our budget looks like:
Venue (more on this later): ~$12,000.00
Photographer: $2,700.00
Wedding Attire: $1,500.00
Flowers (DIY): $250.00
Attendant Gifts: $500.00
Invites (DIY): $150.00
Stamps: $100.00
Ring: $1,000.00
Total: ~$18,200

$18,200 for a party? Turns out, it's a steal for a wedding that we're envisioning: private, intimate, the perfect blend of tradition and modern zeal, and best of all FUN.

The idea for a budget is an interesting one. You take how much you think everything will cost, and then figure out if you have - or have the time to raise - the cash. The system works though. I'll be keeping everyone posted about how we're doing with it.

Okay, upcoming blogs:
DIY projects
The Venue
Our vendors

Don't let me forget!

Monday, September 21, 2009

Wedding planning for the unemployed...

Things that are awesome when you're unemployed and planning a wedding (initial list)

- DIY (Do It Yourself) projects, including (but not limited to) flowers, save-the-dates, invitations, and pretty much anything else (this includes finding new uses for florist tape).
- The confidence boost that you get when you realize that you can, in fact, DIY.
- Amazon.com
- Weddingbee.com
- Costco
- The sudden understanding that it doesn't matter if it's teal instead of chartreuse. No. one. will. notice.
- Google images
- The feeling that you're sticking it to the wedding industry by not following their rules.

And above everything else, the absolute most awesome part about being unemployed and planning a wedding is (* drum roll *)...
- A supportive fiance with a great eye for design and an opinion. (*cymbal crash *)

Thursday, September 10, 2009

H: I have a cold

Helen here.
It's almost midnight on Thursday the 10th and I've come down with a cold. Josh is sitting in a rocking chair across the room reading The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy and has just poured me some cranberry juice with ice.
As I sneeze and engage in futile searches of my pockets for wadded up Kleenex I'm happy to report that all I can think about is how lucky I am to have him.

Ooooooo we have a blog!!!!

Look honey! I'm a blogger! Honey? Are you looking? Sweet.

Oh, hello there. Helen here. Welcome to our blog, in which we describe our upcoming nuptials, our views on the world, and our lives together as a budding couple. We'll try to make this fun for you.

Howdy all, Josh here from my couch talking to you and well.....BOOOOOOOOOO!